Our 482nd Dad in the Limelight is Bryan Alkire. I want to thank Bryan for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing him with all of you.
1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)
About me, well I have been an At home dad for about three years now. I left the work force by choice, my wife and I wanted some one home with the kids. A promotion she received not long after that decision made me a stay at home dad. As for how I am in the limelight, about 6 months ago I started a blog (www.kzoodad.com). With the blog I have tried to share my experiences with being home as well as a creative outlet for myself. It is something I have wanted to do for a while and finally got the guts to do it.
2) Tell me about your family
My family is my wife Stephanie, my two beautiful daughters Sophia, who is two, and Ella, who is four. A plethora of aunts, uncles cousins, and friends help keep our lives interesting as well as provide the support we need. Oh and of course i’m in there too.
3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?
With the exception of a major medical problem my oldest went though, My largest challenge would have to be staying involved. I struggle with the temptation to sit them in front of the tv and just read a book or play on my phone. I like to think I am usually successful with this, although I will admit to moments of weakness. You can only play candy land so many times before you start to zone out.
4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
Be Involved. Like I said in the previous question don’t give in to the temptation. I know it’s tough trust me. But it is the most rewarding thing you can do. Get on the floor and play with the kids. Make a fool of your self, that will mean more to them then any toy or movie. It is also not nearly as aggravating as candy crush.
5) How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life?
Luckily my wife is very understanding with this. She lets me get away to play golf (badly) or meet some friends at the bar after the kids go to bed. I think this is very important. If you lose yourself in becoming a parent you will have nothing to give to your kids. Sometime to step away is important.
6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?
I learned I am not a lone. It sounds obvious to say it now but I struggled for a while when I first stayed home. I was lonely I felt isolated, and I felt others didn’t understand. Other fathers I have spoken with mostly though a couple of great Facebook groups, have helped me feel part of a community. The support is amazing.
7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?
No one is perfect, every thing doesn’t have to be special, just give your kids your time.
8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?
The obvious answer is my kids being born. But as I alluded to above we had a major medical problem with my oldest. I don’t want to get into the detail here, you can find the story on my blog. That is something I will never forget. It shaped who I am and did a lot to show me what was important in my life. It is an experience I will never forget.
If you have any questions for Bryan, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!