Our 243rd Dad in the Limelight is Travis Scott. I want to thank Travis for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing him with all of you.
Currently I am a sale’s representative for a dental company which I love. Additionally, I started an app company that is in discussion to be sold, created the blog www.beyondschoolwalls.com to help teach that stuff that wasn’t taught in school, wrote a book that will be released in October called Christian’s Gifts, and am running my first ½ marathon in two weeks.
I am in the limelight because I have a hectic schedule, but still find time to focus on what’s important in life – MY Family!
2) Tell me about your family
My wife, Jen, is the most amazing and Understanding woman in the world – she has to be to put up with me! In addition to watching our children full-time, she also watches our neighbor’s kids a few days a week.
Seriously, we have been married for almost seven years and I have started several businesses on the side. We have seen some of them fail, but she still supports me! We totally believe that due to those failed attempts, we are where we are at today.
My son, Austin, will be four in July. He is such an awesome little guy and a great big brother. He is really the epitome of a boys-boy. He loves super heroes, sports, fishing wrestling, ect.
My daughter, Brooklyn, (No we did not intentionally name our children after major metropolitan areas) just turned one year old and she is 100% girlie. The massive amounts of pink, screeching, and the confusing clothing have all brought their challenges. However, there is a special bond between us.
We also have a little boy, Christian, who went with the Lord a week before he was supposed to be born. Although he never had a chance to open his eyes in this world, he made an eternal, life altering impact on me. I owe a lot of what I have accomplished over the past 12 months to him.
3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?
My largest challenge definitely came when I lost my son in January of 2010. A week before he was due, an ultrasound revealed there was no heartbeat. My wife still had to deliver him and we had a funeral three days later.
Unfortunately, after the funeral I made a bad situation worse. I slacked at work, blew through savings, went into debt, and probably drank a little too much. Then about 15 months later, I realized that I needed to take back control of my life.
Since then, I have used what happened to my son as inspiration to basically create an awesome life story! Something that I feel Christian is watching from Heaven!
4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
I know firsthand that life is short. Make sure you know what is important!
Here are three things that I learned from my experiences:
- Work Matters – Choose a career that makes you happy (and that will pay the bills). I know from experience that if you are unhappy at work then that will probably carry over the house. Choosing a career that fit my passion, goals, and dreams has helped me more than anything.
- Be Present – It isn’t the amount of time you spend with your family; it is the quality of time. Over the past few months, I have really focused on going off the grid when I come home. So from 5-8:30 every night I am with my family. They love, I love it, and it isn’t really necessary during those hours.
- Take Time for You – If you don’t care of you then you can’t take care of your family. Make sure you are eating right, exercising, and reading positive things. This will help you more than you know!
5) Seeing that you (or your position) are in the limelight, how have you come to balance parenthood and outside life? If you are currently not in the limelight per se, please still answer this in regards to how you balance parenthood and outside life.
My schedule is pretty packed and I am not sure if I have achieved or ever will achieve total balance. What I do well is communicate, prioritize, and stay disciplined.
If you can communicate with your family and let them know what is going on during the week, your goals, and what needs done then you can plan around that. Communication allows me to spend more time with my family, accomplish goals, and optimize my time with them.
To be successful you also need to stay disciplined and prioritize. I wake up at 5:30 every day to either exercise, work on business activities, or read. These two hours before work helps accomplish things that wouldn’t be possible if I slept in until 7:30.
6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?
It is important to focus on experiences with your family. Your wife and children will forget about “things” (toys, clothing, ect) , but they will remember their first fishing trip, riding a bike, or going to a movie. If you are going to be there, then be there!
7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?
Being a father is a HUGE responsibility and the greatest thing in the world! It is something you don’t understand until you become one!
8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?
Other than the birth of my children, a memorable experience that I tell other dads is that you never think you will have to smell another human beings’ butt. Well that changes once you have children. It doesn’t matter if you are in Church, dinner, or meeting the President; if you think your child pooped then you will smell a butt!
If you have any questions for Travis, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!