Dads in the Limelight ( #limelightdads ) – Scott Posey ( @FatherNerdsBest ) #dadchat

Dads in the Limelight Series

Our 430th Dad in the Limelight is Scott Posey. I want to thank Scott for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing him with all of you.

 

Scott Posey, #limelightdads1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)
My name is Scott and I blog at www.fathernerdsbest.com (Father Nerds Best). My blog is my attempt to document my son’s life growing up but while also covering the nerdy interests I have. Video games, movies, sci-fi novels, etc. are all passions of mine but the one I cherish the most is my ability to father my son. This blog is my attempt to mix them together (and also indoctrinate my son in the nerd culture – just don’t tell me wife.)
I work in the Advertising industry for a major online Advertising company as a data analyst and have been doing this since college.
2) Tell me about your family
I live in Baltimore, MD with my wife Reilly and son Jack. I’ve been married for 4 years this coming July and my son was born on November 1st, 2013. We are just starting our family and hope to have more kids in the future. We also have a big dog who thinks he is a lap dog and a crazy cat who constantly tries to eat all of the plastic in the house.
3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?
The largest challenge would most likely have to be the lack of power in certain situations. As a husband, I always try to “fix” things when they are wrong. Through my wife’s pregnancy and birth, I quickly realized there are some things that just can’t be “fixed.” The other challenge would probably be the gear change in life. You aren’t living your life just for you anymore – you have a little one at home who depends on you and needs you to change your life for their well being. It was a little tough at first to change the daily routine of focusing on me but once I did, I was happier and more fulfilled on a daily basis!
Scott Posey, #limelightdads
4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
Basically, I’m a new dad so I don’t have a ton of experience in the fathering department just yet – but what I do know is the birth and days/weeks following. The three things I detail in that post is that:
1) You will be scared and nervous on the big day, and that’s ok
2) Things won’t always go according to plan, roll with the changes
3) It’s ok if you aren’t gushing over your baby right away – it’ll come and this feeling is perfectly normal
Those are three things I quickly learned in the days after the birth that I wish had been told to me before the big day.
Scott Posey, #limelightdads
5) How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life? 
We decided early on that my wife would take two years off of work from her job to stay at home and raise our son while I continue to work. It’s definitely difficult to go from two incomes down to one (and on short notice) but the benefits far outweigh any downsides in my opinion. Having my wife home with Jack keeps me focused on working daily without my mind wondering over how he is in daycare or with a relative. I know my tag team partner is doing a great job at home and that keeps me better focused on my work which in turn helps me better provide for the family.
As for going out with Jack – we’re getting better at that but are still new. We typically take smaller trips to the store or to a friends house and bring Jack with us. Baby wearing has been a big help in this department and something I would have scoffed at before Jack’s birth. Now, I can’t wait to strap on the Tula and carry Jack.
6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?
For starters – that there is a huge community out there of dads who talk, blog, and just share experiences with each other. I was stunned to find this and each day I find more dads to follow on Twitter, Blogger, and WordPress. It’s amazing just how many of us are out there who love their kid(s) and want to blog about their experiences of being a father.
As for particular advice – it would have to be to roll with the punches. Things happen that are sometimes out of your control. I read stories daily of fathers issues that have come up in the past where something may not have gone according to plan or an unforeseen circumstance occurs in the worst time but with a cool head, a loving partner/family, you will get through it and learn from the experience.
Scott Posey, #limelightdads
7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?
Every day is truly wonderful as a father. It sounds sappy but it’s really true. I go to work early in the morning so my son is usually still sleeping but I find myself watching the clock at work waiting for the end of the day so I can go home and see him. Being a parent has also brought my wife and I closer together. Becoming a parent changes you in profound ways both physically in terms of your available time and what you need to do to keep a house in order and mentally in how you handle certain situations. I’ve found that my wife and I are much more in tune with each other and able to raise Jack playing off of both of our strengths. There will be disagreements, hopefully mild, but each one can serve as a lesson in parenting and ultimately help in the raising of your child.
8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?
An easy answer for this is the birth – seeing my son come into this world for the first time and then touching his little hands was a very profound feeling. Getting to know him in the hospital, even with the lack of sleep pretty much each night, was something I will always look back fondly on.
The other moment that really stands out among the others if his first smile. I remember it very clearly. I was changing his diaper on his changing pad and he would usually look us in the eyes when we do this. I remember saying something goofy and he cracked the biggest smile and a little dimple appeared on his right cheek. It was one of the most precious memories I have. I can’t wait until he starts giggling – I’m sure that will be another.

If you have any questions for Scott, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!

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Are You Man Enough To Be the #LatteRomeo ? @Starbucks #CaffeMocha

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#LatteRomeo Mother’s Day Video Contest

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Anyone that is married knows that marriage is not always easy, and as you have kids it becomes even more difficult to not only stay the romantic fool that you were when you were younger, but also it is not always easy to say thank you for everything that your partner does to keep everything running the way that it should (at least that is the case in my own home). Every now and again you have to step up and let mom know how much she is appreciated and this mothers day is the perfect time to do this (though anyday would do too).

Life of Dad and Starbucks have partnered together to bring a cool contest to life. You will be able to become a “Latte Romeo” by preparing that special mom a special breakfast in bed accompanied by a Starbucks VIA® Latte. It’ll be a meal that she’ll never ever forget…seriously…ever.

The chance for you to win the #LatteRomeo challenge is not entirely in your hands, you see one of the clinchers here is that you have to let your kids pick what will be served to Mom and you will prepare that feast, no matter what they come up with (now remember – no cheating…you have to make what they pick!).

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Does your 3 year old think Mom wants only cupcakes for breakfast? Well throw on your apron and get baking. Does your son think 7am is the perfect time for a rack of lamb and a side order of nachos? Time for you to start marinating. They name it, you make it. That’s the rule.

The one thing you can be sure Mom will love when presented with her own personal feast is a sweet and steamy STARBUCKS VIA® LATTE that you prepared in your own kitchen! The one thing you can be sure Mom will love when presented with her personalized breakfast is a sweet and creamy Starbucks VIA® Vanilla Latte or a rich, indulgent Starbucks VIA® Caffè Mocha. The best part is she gets her Starbucks without having to leave the bed, and that makes you a #LatteRomeo.

My daughter gave me my marching orders this morning… while we did not do breakfast in bed (as I know my wife and what she appreciates), we did catch her by surprise without burning down the house) and we had fun in the meantime. At the same time, we made J-Mom happy and got her ready for her day of work (she had to work today) with a full stomach. Below is our video and as you can see I definitely AM the #LatteRomeo …. hands down… I know I have this contest in the bag…

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That being said I GUESS I should see what you can come up with… though I know you have no chance to compare to this #LatteRomeo . I challenge you to share your ultimate Mother’s Day breakfast story with an Instagram video (only 15 seconds, so get creative) in LIFE OF DAD’S STARBUCKS VIA® #LatteRomeo Contest! The grand prize winner will receive a $500 Starbucks Card.

 

To enter the contest you must:

  • Create an Instagram video of the morning surprise that features the Starbucks Latte. The video length for Instagram is only 15 seconds, so pack in as much awesome as you can. (All videos must contain a visual of the Starbucks VIA® Latte logo and/or mention “Starbucks VIA® Latte” in video.)
  • Share your video on InstagramFacebook, and Twitter.
  • Email a link to your video to starbucks@lifeofdad.com
  • Include all of the below in your social postings:
  • #StarbucksVIA
  • #LatteRomeo
  • @Starbucks
  • #CaffeMocha or #VanillaLatte (optional)

STARBUCKS will choose the winners on the basis of:

  • creativity of presentation (30%)
  • adherence to cheerful, uplifting theme (40%)
  • Starbucks story/coffee involvement (30%)
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College Prep: Start Money Management Early

Saving for College

As a parent, one of your jobs is to make sure your child has all the tools she needs to be successful in life; and one of these tools is a college education. There are several resources to help families plan for college. There are books on finding and creating the financial means to pay for college; books on preparing academically for college; and books on how to find the right college. Some books even cover all three.

Often what these books overlook is how to navigate the financial landscape during college.

 

College and Money

Unfortunately, college expenses don’t end with tuition, books, and room and board. Even if they live on campus, college students need money for things like clothing, school supplies, and even entertainment. If you have the funds, you can send your child an allowance for these things. If not, then your child will have to find a way to cover these expenses herself.

Some students work, but if they don’t have the necessary budgeting skills, they could spend beyond their means and end up relying on credit cards to take up the slack. The risk if even greater if your child lives off campus, and is responsible for paying for rent, food, and utilities out of her own pocket.

Upon graduation, the average college student has $3,000 in credit card debt, and that debt could have a negative impact on her future prospects.

 

Debt and Your Child’s Future

Starting off her professional life in debt not only makes life stressful, it can interfere with your child’s career prospects. Employers often check credit as part of a standard background check. A history full of late payments and bad debts can make your child look irresponsible in the eyes of a future employer.

Even if your child has managed to pay all of her bills on time, if her debt-to-income ratio is skewed, employers may be concerned that worry about her debts will interfere with her work.

Additionally, if she wants to go to graduate school, a poor credit score could prevent her from getting the funding she needs to pursue an advanced degree.

 

Protecting Your Child

Your first step should be starting as early as possible in teaching your child about money management. This should include things like budgeting and prioritizing bills as well as how to effectively save for an emergency.

You should also teach your child about credit cards, how they work, and how to use them responsibility. Additionally, you should cover how they affect her credit score, and how that score affects her ability to do other things.

If your child has already incurred credit card debt, there are things you can do to help.

If she is already behind, you should talk with an agency to determine how your child can improve or fix her credit score.

These agencies can review your child’s credit information and determine the best course of action for resolving the situation. Additionally, these agencies often have ample experience in dealing with creditors and can negotiate lower interest rates and monthly payments.

It’s never too early to teach your child about responsible money management. Doing so will help her avoid many of the financial problems that current college students face, and will give her a better foundation for building her future.

 

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Maleficent – “The Legacy” Featurette Now Available! #maleficent

 

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Maleficent” explores the untold story of Disney’s most iconic villain from the classic “Sleeping Beauty” and the elements of her betrayal that ultimately turn her pure heart to stone. Driven by revenge and a fierce desire to protect the moors over which she presides, Maleficent cruelly places an irrevocable curse upon the human king’s newborn infant Aurora. As the child grows, Aurora is caught in the middle of the seething conflict between the forest kingdom she has grown to love and the human kingdom that holds her legacy. Maleficent realizes that Aurora may hold the key to peace in the land and is forced to take drastic actions that will change both worlds forever.

The film stars Angelina Jolie as Maleficent, Sharlto Copley, Elle Fanning, Sam Riley, Imelda Staunton, Juno Temple and Lesley Manville.

 

“Maleficent” is produced by Joe Roth and directed by Robert Stromberg, with Angelina Jolie, Michael Vieira, Don Hahn, Palak Patel, Matt Smith and Sarah Bradshaw serving as executive producers. Linda Woolverton wrote the screenplay. “Maleficent” opens in U.S. theaters on May 30, 2014.

 

Like MALEFICENT on Facebook: facebook.com/DisneyMaleficent

 

Follow MALEFICENT on Twitter: @Maleficent

 

YouTube Playlist:  http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLTnR43JTLNs8AKNpJ4KFI6SSdpTzkcXjw 

 

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Disneynature’s BEARS – In Theatres Today #DisneynatureBears

Disneynature’s BEARS – In Theatres Today #DisneynatureBears

 

“Like” Disneynature on Facebook: Facebook.com/Disneynature

 

Follow Disneynature on Twitter: Twitter.com/Disneynature

 

Visit the website: Disney.com/Bears

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Topps ( @toppscards ) Bring Baseball To Life #giveaway

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The Topps product, information, and gift pack have been provided by Topps.

As baseball season comes into full swing, kids can kick-off their favorite sport with 2014 Topps Baseball Series 1 cards by learning about the exciting new rookies, while also looking back at the greatest players of today and yesterday. I grew up collecting Topps baseball cards, and I still have the cards that I collected in the years that ranged from about 1984-1988 (or so). I was always so excited to be able to collect the cards, getting the packs of cards and hoping amongst hope that I would receive the cards that I needed when I opened the pack. I did not usually purchase the entire set of cards, but collected the cards pack by pack, and this was just part of the fun of collecting. Granted there were times when you got let down because you did not get the cards that you really wanted, but I always looked at this as an opportunity to trade cards with friends which was always fun too!

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Being a father of girls I have brought my girls to baseball games, but I have not really introduced them to baseball cards, except for the ones that I have myself. This opportunity with Topps was a a fun one as it allowed me to be able to give them the opportunity to have the joy of opening up the cards for themselves and see who they would receive, read about the players and get bit by the baseball card bug per se. In letting them open the packs for themselves they loved the suspense and anticipation of opening their packs. I had to explain to them about the fact that the cards were a part of a larger set that you collect so that they could better understand the scope of the collecting. Otherwise, they had a blast with this and I think they are now interested in getting into collecting cards more often now. If you have never experiences Topps before, you should as they have a rich history of being in the baseball card business, and to be honest they do it right in my perspective!

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  Giveaway

How would you like to win a 2014 Topps Baseball Series 1 Value Box (retail value $19.99) for yourself or for your family? All you need to do is fill out the below form to be entered.  The contest will run for one week and will end on April 26, 2014.

Winner must be a resident of the U.S. a Rafflecopter giveaway

Winners are chosen at random, if you want all your chances counted, make sure you leave individual comments, not all of them in one! Winner has 48 hours to contact me or another name will be chosen.  

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Walt Disney World Makes Me Happy! @WaltDisneyWorld

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Over the past week my family and I stayed on site at Walt Disney World’s Wilderness Lodge Resort. As a part of this we decided to be able to take the kids to the parks over three of our days. While this was not enough time to be able to see everything, we focused out attention on The Magic Kingdom and Epcot in this trip.

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My family has been HUGE Disney fans forever. I grew up on Disney and have continued this love with my own girls as they have grown up. We have been a bit lucky to be able to bring the kids to the parks a few times in their lives thanks to another family member who is a part of Disney’s vacation club.

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Staying on-site definitely has its’ perks. If you are staying at one of the Disney resorts, not only is their transportation from the resort to all of the parks and Downtown Disney, but you also have access to the parks early on days where they have Magic Hours (where they open an hour early). One thing we learned this go around about these hours though for the Magic Kingdom was that the whole park does not open early, it was only Fantasyland and Tomorrowland.

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The resort that we stayed at was wonderful. As you will find in all of Disney the culture is that of total customer service and this transcends into the parks, resorts and everywhere you go. The Wilderness Lodge is set up like an old Lodge that you would find out west. As you walk into the lodge you will be taken aback with the huge open air lobby that rises at least 8-10 stories (I did not go all the way up). Beautiful totems are throughout the lobby and as part of your stay you can actually take a tour where they will explain why certain animals are where they are on the totems as well as other aspects of the resort itself. The resort has two pools, an exercise facility and arcade and even child care is available too if you want to have some time alone without the kids (for a fee). You also have the opportunity to dine at one of their two restaurants. We ate at the Whispering Canyon Cafe while we were there and the food was excellent and even better was the atmosphere. In this restaurant the wait staff really interact with you, banter back and forth and make the experience memorable. My kids will never forget having to yell out to the whole restaurant “I need ketchup!” or galloping around the restaurant on wooden ponies. This restaurant is definitely one that you should experience if you have yet to do so.

 

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As I mentioned we took time to go to Magic Kingdom and Epcot on this trip. This was the first time taking the kids to Epcot as we had waited until the kids were old enough to appreciate some of the learning that takes place at Epcot, as this is a park that is not just about the rides. The girls also wanted to go here because this was where Elsa and Anna were. So we got up early and ran from the entrance to Norway to be able to see these new princesses. Even though we ran, it still was a 2.5 hour wait (which we did wait) and the princesses took a bit of extra time making the wait worth it. I will warn you though and say that there were people after we got in line that waited for over 4 hours, so be aware of this. I heard while at Epcot that at the end of this month they were going to be at the Magic Kingdom and you will be able to access them with a fastpass.

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We did not spend much time in the World Showcase, though we did walk through them all, and being that the International Flower and Garden show was happening while we were there the topiaries were amazing! The kids also thought that the different worlds were cool, though as mentioned, I think they need a few more years to appreciate the films that are in the worlds that explore the culture and customs of each of the worlds. The kids did like the different rides that were available. Some of their favorite were Test Track, Soarin and Spaceship Earth. I will warn those with younger kids that Mission Space can cause a bit of motion sickness if you or your kids are prone to this at all. One of the things that is definitely memorable was the Fireworks show that they have every night, they do this over the water and it is definitely worth staying for.

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At Magic Kingdom, we decided to spread this out over two days and I am so glad that we did. We found that there were a lot of people in the parks and the lines did get long on some of the rides, so it was nice to be able to spread out the park and not feel like we did not have to rush through things and we could actually see every show and ride every ride if we so chose. We were a bit disappointed that the new Snow White and the Seven Dwarves Mine Ride was not yet open, as it looks like a ton of fun. You can actually see a video of them testing the ride here . This park was such a great one for families and for kids specifically. The rides are fun, and some even thrilling. There is a bit of everything for everyone, and you definitely get to see so many of your favorite characters at this park.

One of the things that I definitely encourage you to do if you go to the Magic Kingdom is to make sure you see the Disney Festival of Fantasy Parade which happens every afternoon, and you stay for the electric light parade and the Wishes Fireworks show at night. While I know this can make for a long day, it is something that you and your family will never forget.

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Eating while in the parks is easy and convenient. The staff in the parks have food service down to a science and while you may wait in a bit of a line, you will get your food pretty quick and it tastes great. One of the things that I love about the food at Disney in general is the wide array of variety. They rank their restaurants by dollar signs. They have restaurants that rank from one to four dollar signs based on how expensive the restaurants are. Thus, whether you want something quick or a sit down meal you can definitely get it. The one thing you need to keep in mind though is planning things out. If you want to have a character breakfast or a nice meal out as a family or as a couple, you need to plan this or you may not get to go to the restaurant that you want to go to when you want to go there. J-Mom and I decided to use a park hopper ticket which was provided by Walt Disney World, to do and experience a restaurant at Hollywood Studios on the second day that we visited the Magic Kingdom. By sitting things up on MyDisneyExperience.com we were able to select the day, time and look at the possible restaurants that were available. We chose to try Mama Melrose’s Ristorante Italiano. The atmosphere in the restaurant was wonderful, and while it was a bit loud (which we did not mind), the food we received was wonderful, and we left happy with the experience. So whether you like Italian, Chinese, Polynesian, American, Irish, Japanese, Norwegian, or almost any other type of food under the sun Disney provides it to you. On top of this they use high quality ingredients and have high quality chefs on hand to create food that you will remember.

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I mentioned park hopper tickets, and probably should explain for those that have never been to Walt Disney World. Park hopper tickets allow you to visit multiple parks in one day. This allows you to not be bound to only visiting one park, but instead allows you to split your day the way you wish. These tickets are more expensive than single park tickets, but if you want to be able to have the flexibility of moving around the parks during the days, they are well worth it.

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The final thing I will comment on this go around, is the new way in which Disney is now providing fast passes for their rides. If you have been to the parks in the past you know that you can typically get fast passes for rides to avoid lines, but you could only get one at a time. Now, Disney is allowing you to set up three fast passes a day for the first park that you visit. So again, if you have purchased your tickets in advance you can also set up your week at Disney all in the same MyDisneyExperience.com and when you have selected your parks, you can set up fast passes for some of the most popular rides. The rides at the two parks that I would definitely recommend for fast passes include: Epcot -  Test Track & Soarin (one tip – if you can ride solo on the test track ride, you can save yourself a ton of time in line). Magic Kingdom – Peter Pan’s Ride, Splash Mountain and Big Thunder Mountain. These are just my picks, but they were also the rides that consistently had the longest wait times at the parks too.

 

Walt Disney World is a magical place and a place where you definitely can feel at home. The Walt Disney Company has done it right and continually makes you feel like the most important guest when you are visiting. I started a fan and remain one. If you have never experienced this, you should!

 

 

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Dads in the Limelight ( #limelightdads ) – Charlie Seymour Jr. ( @Grandsonlessons ) #dadchat

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Our 429th Dad in the Limelight is Charlie Seymour Jr.. I want to thank Charlie for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing him with all of you.

 

Charlie Seymour Jr., #limelightdads1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)

Little did I know at age 11, when a Dupont scientist (whose job was to invent VHS tape) taught me video directing at our local theater, that I’d grow up to use my producing skills to help people profit through online marketing and video. Now I’m a husband, dad, and granddad. I know in my heart how powerful video is (I’m often called the Video-Crazed MBA Marketer). Oh, sure – I have an MBA from Wharton and an award-winning sales and marketing record, but it’s this early learning that sets me apart.

Not long after losing my father, I started a website, LessonsFromMyGrandson.com, so that my grandson would never grow up not knowing who I was. He won’t remember my Dad, but he’ll remember me: we will live forever on the Internet, and video is the best way to do it.

And in my own little world, I guess my 15 minutes of fame come from a best-selling book, years directing theater (in a theater where 5 generations of my family have acted and directed), my activities at church, and through the many videos I create for my own work and for clients’ success.

Charlie Seymour Jr., #limelightdads2) Tell me about your family

Growing up in a stable family of three kids, a dad, a mom, and many relatives close by, family has always been important to me. Holidays were huge – lots of food smells wafting through our house, noisy chatter of family, and warm hugs and stories.

But the biggest change for me was having kids. One as soon as I was married (who was 9 years old when I met her) and then a biological child a couple of years later. They are now 42 and 30 years old. Wow… life changing.

And I thought nothing could top that until… until my grandson was born. I promised my younger daughter (his mother) that no one would take her place in my heart, and that’s still true: but 29-month old grandson, Beckett, sure has carved out a HUGE part of my life and my love. I never had a son, so perhaps part of my love is because I now have a boy to share things with. And his 7-month old sister is making her way deep into my life and heart too.

Charlie Seymour Jr., #limelightdads3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?

Knowing when to help, advise, instruct.

One time I suggested to my younger daughter that she should chat with Mom as well (I never passed off either of my daughters to my wife: never said, “that’s a subject for you and Mom,” because I knew I’d never learn that way. But therewere times when I thought Mom should be included as well… and from the child’s invitation and not my quiet whispers). When I suggested that, she said, “Oh, Dad: Mom talks like a man.”

Took me a while to recover from that one. What did that mean about the way I talked?!!

But what she meant was: Mom wanted to solve problems and not just discuss them, letting our daughter figure out the answer on her own. I’m a pretty directed guy, so offering advice comes easily to me. Many times I had to hold back, open a “what do you think should happen” conversations, and just be there to love her.

4) What advice would you give to other fathers?

Be there. Listen. Ask what your child wants as help. Don’t judge, or she/he will stop going to you.

And love them with all your heart.

OH… and give them room to fail. Parents that hover and fix things before they’re broken often do a disservice to their kids – we all learn by doing, as much as we’d like to wave a magic wand to cure all ills.
We get only one chance with these kids – let’s make the most of it!

Charlie Seymour Jr., #limelightdads5) How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life? 

I’ve been fortunate. I did really well in investment real estate sales and then decided to leave it when the market went bad. (Chuckling to myself… I know: which time did it go bad? I’m referring to the early 90s.)

Most of my life I have worked from home. I was there when my kids took naps (nothing like kisses as they went down and nothing like hugs when they woke up!) and when they returned from school. I have been a Work At Home Dad if not truly a Stay At Home Dad.

And there were times I had to say NO to my family and NO to the outside world. I tuned in to what I thought my family would feel was important and worked hard to keep them in mind.

6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?

Wow, so many things!

Peace. Patience. Ways to involve kids in journeys I never thought about. Ways to encourage kids to do their best. And ways to be independent and at the same time interdependent.

7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?

Life for a father of girls changes the second she says, “I’m engaged.” And then life explodes with all kinds of emotions and possibilities when she says, “I’m pregnant.”

I was totally unprepared for life as a granddad. People could tell me about the joys, the fun, the chance to teach that next generation (even as you handed them back to their parents for the day-to-day challenges of parenting)… but it has been MUCH more than I expected.

If I could spend all my time helping my grandson (I admit I haven’t gotten to know my granddaughter as well, but her personality is just beginning to shine forth), I would be happy. Deep-inside happy. Limbic-brain, deeply-emotional happy. My LessonsFromMyGrandson.com site is a labor of love – a love for Beckett that I hope others enjoy too.

Charlie Seymour Jr., #limelightdads
8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?

Sitting my (then) soon-to-be step daughter on my knee to tell her that I wouldn’t replace her biological father and her looking up to me to ask, “What does that mean? The only word I know like that is bibliography.” Cute!

Seeing my younger daughter “fly” as Peter Pan when she was in 7th grade – the family theater tradition lived on.

Helping my younger daughter produce her first music CD (LizSeymour.com), staying in the background, helping to encourage her and market for her.

Holding my daughter when in tears she came to me after breaking up with a long-time boyfriend, when not getting a big part in a musical (she so often did that this was a shock to her), when contractions filled her with pain before her first delivery.

Watching her become Miss West Chester University using a platform of anti-smoking since secondhand smoke is what killed her material grandmother.
Walking her down the aisle, holding her closely… both of us holding back tears.

Watching her grow into the role of motherhood… something she does very well.

One more: A few years ago I ended an email to Liz with “Your Daddy Loves You!” When it came to texting, I shortened that to YDLY! which has become an important signature between us, especially when she discovered that YDLY! can also mean Your DAUGHTER Love You! Sweet!

 
If you have any questions for Charlie, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!

Also, do you know a Dad in the Limelight? If so, please email me their contact information so that they too can be a part of this series!

Dad of Divas, dadofdivas.com

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