Teaching #Leadership to Our Kids at #DadChat – #Giveaways


Where will our kids learn about leadership? From our leaders? Okay, that was a rhetorical question. From our celebrities? Another rhetorical question. From parents that are not present or work all the time? You know the answers to all these questions. There’s a vacuum and those of us still doing parenting must fill it – at least for our kids. We can’t count on schools to do much of anything other than teach a politically correct agenda. So, #DadChat has brought on two experts in this area to help us figure it out and learn how to teach leadership (to our kids). Alli Polin and Karin Hurt will be our guest hosts this Thursday, April 29 at 6:00 p.m. PT/9:00 p.m. ET. We will be giving away THREE copies of Karin’s book, “Overcoming an Imperfect Boss: A Practical Guide to Building a Better Relationship With Your Boss.


Karin Hurt is a keynote speaker, leadership consultant, and MBA professor. A former Verizon Wireless executive, she has over two decades of experience in sales, customer service, and HR. Named on Inc’s 2015 list of 100 Great Leadership Speakers For Your Next Conference and 2015 Top Thought Leaders in Trusted Business Behavior by Trust Across America, Karin improves business results through deeper trust & connection. She knows the stillness of a yogi, the reflection of a marathoner, and the joy of being a mom raising emerging leaders. Ultimately, it’s about Confident Humility.




You can download their FREE ebook, “Parent’s Guide to Leadership” as well as a FREE ebook, Talking Teams (easy leadership exercises you can do with your team) here http://letsgrowleaders.com/publications/


Alli Polin per her Twitter Bio: I help people engage more purposefully at the intersection of life and leadership. Coach, Speaker, Blue Sky Dreamer. Mom Extraordinaire. You can learn more about Alli on her website – http://breaktheframe.com/meet-alli/
Some questions to consider:
  • What are the top three leadership skills for kids to develop?
  • How can kids learn to be assertive without being a bully?
  • How have you helped your children to grow in their leadership?
Please invite your community to join #DadChat with these suggested tweets:
  • How have you helped your children to grow in their leadership? #DadChat, Thursday
  • What makes someone a leader? Who teaches our kids to lead? #DadChat, tomorrow!
  •  How can kids learn to be assertive without being a bully? Teaching kids #Leadership TONIGHT at #DadChat

Dads in the Limelight ( #limelightdads ) – Robb McKinney ( @Distracted_Dad ) #dadchat

Dads in the Limelight Series

Our 508th Dad in the Limelight is Robb McKinney. I want to thank Robb for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing him with all of you.


1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)

I’m a brand new dad of fraternal twin boys and married to my high school sweetheart. After college*, we moved from Orlando, Florida to the Seattle area of Washington on a wing and a prayer; we’d always wanted to come out here and figured being fresh out of school with no kids or mortgage would be an ideal time to just pack up and go. *Author’s note: My degree is NOT in spontaneity.


We’ve had some challenges in the7+ years since we got here: job turmoil during the recession, a cancer diagnosis for me, infertility, and some complicated emotional health issues. The good news is that all of these things have been successfully dealt with. In the case of infertility, we had a successful IVF that brought us two beautiful boys.


As for the “limelight”, I suppose I stand in it as a dad who has overcome a lot and has a lot more to overcome. I struggle with some emotional health issues, the need to find a new job that allows me to work from home more, and other “inconveniences” that make this whole fatherhood thing more challenging for me than I could ever have imagined


2) Tell me about your family

I’m an only child of a single mother from the Midwest; there’s not an awful lot to tell there. I’m married to a gal I met in high school who was willing to do a long distance relationship for a while, put up with my shenanigans, and eventually marry and have a life with me. Hopefully history is kind in judging her.



3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?

I already mentioned that I’m dealing with some emotional health issues (is there any way of saying that that doesn’t make me sound totally cray-cray?), but while that’s very real, it’s also long term, so I’ll put a pin in that. The biggest challenge I have really faced since becoming a father was the change to my everyday life. I know that every parent has a major change to their life, but I feel like for me, there was a mental wall that kept me from accepting some of those changes. It STILL keeps me from accepting some of those changes.


I work nights, which in my case means I work from the afternoon to 10-11ish at night. My wife works an 8-5 job, which means for most days of the week, she’s asleep when I get home, and I’m asleep when she leaves.


This means that for years, I have had the house to myself for hours after I got home, during which I could basically do what I wanted. Other days I was able to just run to the store or sequester myself to get some writing done. When my wife and I had a whole day together, we could just go wherever we wanted with little to no planning. I could come home late from work or leave early. I could watch a horror movie with the volume up, hang out in the hammock with a beer, or get some stuff scratched off my to-do list.


I knew that all would change, I really did, but it still managed to blind side me. Being able to pop over to Starbucks for a bit suddenly required planning, and it might not be able to happen at all.

Freedom as a childless adult switched to responsibility as a father of twins with such a level of totality that I’m still adjusting to it 5+ months later.


4) What advice would you give to other fathers?

At this point, I can only base any advice on about six months of experience, but I’m really smart about cooking hipster food and identifying bird species, so I think I’m pretty well qualified.


If you are about to be a father or are a brand-new father, you will be showered with advice from every direction. Your friends, family, books, blogs, websites, the advice that plays when you run Devo’s 1979 album “Duty Now for the Future”; all of these sources will be providing advice – some good, some bad, some contradictory – until your head can’t hold any more info. Learning what to do when the baby is two months old two months before the baby is born winds up being lost in the ether of having a baby.

The advice you get, whether from personal or professional sources, is always offered with the best of intentions. Just be ready to take it with a thousand grains of salt.


Except for this advice. You should totally take this advice.


5) How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life?

In a lot of ways we haven’t, truth be told. As I said, my wife and I work opposing schedules, and although I’ve cut down my workload by a few days a week, our odd sleep schedules can throw off an entire day. While I have picked up some (very) light at-home work, the hunt continues for more gainful employment that still allows me to spend more time at home with the boys without sacrificing too many of life’s pleasures, like a house and electricity.


Maybe just as tough has been our child care situation. We have a sitter two days a week when we both have to be out of the home at our jobs, and she’s great. What we don’t have is the network of family members and close (geographically) friends who can help us out with a Sunday afternoon or Friday night off in exchange for the pleasure of spending a few hours with the babies.


6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?

I’ve learned that I’m not alone! Although my journey is, of course, unique to me, some dad somewhere out there has had similar experiences. Going into this, I had this preconceived notion that every other dad out there was this heroic character, some Superdad who, from the birth of his child on, slept eight hours, had an immediate work-life balance, knew all the rules to every sport, and could do his high-paying IT job from home when and if he felt like it. Sure, there are probably plenty of those dads, and I mean no disrespect; it’s just that it took me a while to figure out that that was not what was demanded of me. Loving and raising and protecting and teaching can be enough.




7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?

I can only go as far as (almost) six months, and my point of view is skewed a bit by having twins, but my worst and best experience so far has been the emotional rollercoaster that my life has become. I’ve felt happier and more terrified than ever before in my life. I’ve experienced a whole new kind of love and a new level of frustration and self-doubt. I want help and want to be left alone and respected. I want to be the protector and leader of my kids and surrender to them completely. I never knew I had such an emotional range!


8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?

I’m in the position of being a new enough parent that all my memories are first-time and fresh, but with such a short time and two babies, I am also in such a fog  sometimes that memories blur together, or they’re there but the attached emotion is faded, if it was ever anything more complex than “Baby cute. Me like.”


So for the sake of this question I’m going with two memories:


The first was shortly after the boys had begun “social smiling”, in other words smiling that was not (necessarily) succeeded by the passing of gas or a bowel movement. My wife had recently gone back to work, and I was in charge in the mornings. I went into the nursery to start our day, and each baby greeted me with a huge, exuberant smile. I’ll never know if they were happy to see me, their old man, or me, bringer of clean diapers and food, but it was still one of the best feelings of my life.


More recently, they have started to really notice and interact with each other. Watching them reach out and feel each other, take things away from each other, grab one another’s clothes, and so on, has the feel of a nature documentary but the emotional impact of seeing our sons start to become sentient beings. It’s probably the most I’ve felt like they’re “real” people, and to me it launched the next stage of our lives together.


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Workout While You Watch–Super Bowl Sunday Fitness Challenge #DadChat

John-RowleyDid you know that Super Bowl Sunday is the second highest day of food consumption in the United States, only behind Thanksgiving? About 125 million pounds of chicken wings are sold during Super Bowl week and nearly 50% of people are stuffing their face at home watching the game with family. Add up all the calories just one person in your family consumed for just one day and you’ve eaten enough calories for two days worth.

To combat your Super Bowl Sunday weight gain, show some team spirit and keep moving all game long, with a great workout with certified personal trainer and ISSA Director of Wellness John Rowley (bio below). Bring the competition and heat all the way from Arizona right into your living room!


John’s Super Bowl Sunday Fitness Challenge

  1. Quarterback Sack Crunches
  2. Field Goal Lunge
  3. First Down High Knees
  4. Fumble Push Ups
  5. Penalty Planks
  6. Celebration Touchdown Dance


John Rowley is a Certified Personal Trainer and widely recognized fitness health and wellness expert who helps others transform their bodies and help them find their passion, purpose and drive for success. As a #1 Best Selling author, John’s books both act as self-help books for those interested in transforming their bodies and lives. Rowley’s expertise goes beyond staying physically fit. He changes lives and offers many self-help tips in every aspect of life, which helps others live an overall more successful life.

Dads and Daughters Unite With Music #DadChat

Dads-and-Daughters-Music Dads and Daughters Unite With Music

Every dad with daughters knows how difficult it can be to relate to them, especially once they’ve hit their teenage years. Music is the perfect conduit for a healthy relationship with your daughters. Whether your “little girls” are very young, or already in high school, they need to be able to relate to and communicate with their father. Life offers plenty of great bonding opportunities for parents and their kids. Music is one of the most universal and powerful experiences and communication tools you can use in your family.

Dads-and-Daughters-MusicA healthy relationship with you daughters is not the only thing a life filled with music can offer your precious angels. Music, in more ways than one, can help prepare your daughters for college. Learning a musical instrument, like the guitar, has been proven to improve memory absorption and retention. Additionally, finding a great local teacher and investing in guitar lessons could be great for their musical education.

Also, music helps with repetitive tasks. Doing a task over and over can be less of an annoyance and easier to complete with a little background music; however, most schools don’t allow music while in the classroom. I can’t tell you from personal experience, as I play four instruments, that it helped me “play music in my mind” during tests and such, which helped my tests scores.Dads-and-Daughters-Music

To get through college, a person needs determination, a healthy sense of self-worth, and a healthy memory. All of these things can be promoted in the early stages of life by music.

Now, back to using music to form a better relationship with your daughters. Because music is so universally spoken and understood, it may be one of the easiest ways to express your emotions to your daughter, and vice versa. Learning each other’s interests in music and putting forth the effort to learning those songs may just form the strongest bond any father has ever had with their daughter. The implication that you and your daughter, or daughters, are willing to learn each other this way may just be the thing that glues you together for the rest of your lives.

Going through the painstaking task of learning the guitar, or any other instrument, with your kids would be a profound statement to them that you are willing to go the extra mile to know them. It will show them that you truly care about their emotional well-being, and show them that you are there for them.

Dads-and-Daughters-MusicLastly, bring music into yours and your daughters’ relationship will bring tranquility to your household. Playing music has been tested and proven as a therapeutic exercise. Therefore, playing music will release the tensions of the day from you and your kids, and afford you the ability to communicate in other ways without stress.

Plus, music provokes the emotive nature of a person’s subconscious; thus, it will make you and your daughters more “in tune” with your emotional side; which, as any dad of daughters knows, is something that is extremely valuable to dads. As learning to play a musical instrument will promote the growth of personality, doing so with your daughters will afford you the opportunity to watch their personalities grow, mature, and blossom into the beautiful people they are sure to become.

Technology Chat: Should Parents Monitor Their Children’s Passwords? #DadChat

Monitor-technologyShould Parents Monitor Their Children’s Passwords?

For parents, technology can be a two-edged sword: it can be used for studying challenging subjects through educational websites, but it can also be used to associate with the wrong kind of people or go to the wrong types of websites. The issue of how to use technology usually surfaces for both parents and children when children become ‘tweens and teens.

Monitor-technologyThe Dangers

While it is possible to use filtering software programs to prevent children from talking to predators who can manipulate, coerce, and corrupt their innocent children or from visiting pornographic websites, these programs are much more effective for younger children who are using a family computer or their own computer or device. However, as children get older, they learn how to use school and library computers or use their friend’s computers or devices.

Additionally, children can access legitimate websites and still get into trouble, posting inappropriate content. One way for parents to monitor content is to have access to all their passwords.

Another danger is that children may use weak passwords that expose the family’s entire home network to all kinds of malware.

Monitor-technologyThe Heated Debate

Should parents know all their children’s passwords? Some parents believe that they should respect their children’s privacy while others believe that this is a dangerous thing to do. As for children, most are against the whole idea of parents monitoring their online behavior.

Parents Who Believe In Privacy

Parents who have focused on developing rapport and trust with their children as they grew up believe that children need to have their space and their privacy. They believe that just as they had locked diaries and private telephone conversations when they were young, their children should also have these privileges.

These parents believe that by trusting their children to do the right thing, this expectation will produce positive results. They believe that they should not be involved in their children’s social lives as this would hamper their process of maturity.

However, many do admit that the world has changed dramatically since they were little, but they think that conversations about what’s going on with their children’s online social lives by computer or mobile device will teach them how to think and act responsibly. Should their child take this permissive attitude for granted, these parents believe that they can always take away these privileges and begin monitoring their children from that point on with random spot checks.

Parents who believe in assuring their children of privacy consider monitoring their children’s behavior to be nothing more than spying. “I think spying on kids is wrong,” said Lori Day, an educational psychologist who authored “Her Next Chapter,” a book on mother-daughter relationships. “It’s a good way of sabotaging your relationship with your child if you get caught.”

Monitor-technologyParents Who Believe In Protection

Parents who do choose to monitor their children’s behavior see it as their responsibility to keep their children safe because they don’t have the maturity to always make the right decisions.

Here are five primary reasons they have decided to monitor their children’s passwords with a password manager:

  • When children know that anything they do online can be discovered, it’s like having an angel on their shoulder. They are less likely to misbehave if they know that their parents might be able to find out.
  • Deterring children is much better than allowing them free rein and then being forced to come down on them when their children are reported doing something inappropriate by other parents. Prevention is far kinder than being forced into a position of shaming children.
  • At sleepovers or other peer-related activities, children are much less likely to do embarrassing or inappropriate things. They also have a built-in excuse from not participating in peer-related pranks because they can always say that their parents have access to their passwords.
  • Parents are much less likely to avoid embarrassing conversations with school authorities or other parents about their child’s inappropriate behavior, which might include serious issues like taking or forwarding sexy pictures or participating in cyberbullying.
  • If their child is being bullied online, innocently conversing with a sexual predator, or being persuaded to try drugs, parents can catch these problems well before things get completely out of control.

These days, parents can use password management software to help with online security. The best password manager systems should have a central vault that has a master password to use so that if children do change their passwords, it will show up in the vault.

Monitor-technologyWhat Children Think

Almost predictably children believe their parents should trust them unless they did something to lose that trust. They also believe that they are well-aware of the dangers of what can happen online and are not likely to be suckered into doing something foolish.

What Is The Right Answer?

While many psychologists often talk about blending light monitoring with honest conversations about the danger of the internet and then tapering off as children get older and more mature, others consider this permissive attitude dangerous. “Children are not free range any more,” said psychology professor Tanya Byron at an educational conference. “There are no more predators on the streets, no more pedophiles, than when I was growing up in the 1970s, yet children are rarely seen out. Instead, they are having a blast in this fantastic global space. I would argue that they are more vulnerable there than if they were hanging out on the street.”

Dads in the Limelight ( #limelightdads ) – Jerry Dugan ( @JerryDugan ) #dadchat

Dads in the Limelight Series

Our 507th Dad in the Limelight is Jerry Dugan. I want to thank Jerry for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing him with all of you.


1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)


My name is Jerry Dugan from the blog, The Real Jerry Dugan. I grew up as an Army BRAT living in countries like Japan and Germany. My parents divorced when I was 11 years old. Today, I have a blog, a podcast called “Family Time Q&A”, and have written an eBook called Strength Revisited which is available as a free download from my blog.


The title of my blog started as a joke when I was racing against a video/film director from Las Vegas for web presence in 2007. Out of frustration I shouted, “I’m the real Jerry Dugan!” and found the domain name was available.


My blogging has mostly focused on sharing the real me as I experience life’s challenges and joys as a husband and father. Having served in a men’s ministry for three years, and working as a community educator for a battered women’s shelter for nearly four years, I have seen there’s a great need for men to recognize the harmful lies about masculinity we’ve been fed, and be the “real” (genuine and authentic) men our families need us to be.


2) Tell me about your family

I joined the Army after college even though my dad once told me, “Do whatever you want in life…except join the Army.” It’s one of the few times I’ll say ignoring wisdom pays off, because it was in the Army where I met my wonderful wife, Olivia.


Thirteen years later, and we have a teenage son, a pre-teen ballerina daughter, a prissy cat, and a zombie-fighting dog. Together, we run a weekly podcast called “Family Time Q&A” where I sit down with a different family member each week and we ask each other a candid question. The idea behind the podcast is that we demonstrate the way we interact with each other by having a show that is unscripted and unedited. This includes allowing my kids a voice to challenge me when I am being unfair or to explain a decision they did not understand.


3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?

My job as a father is to help my children become they people they were meant to be, so I have to constantly think about doing what builds them up. The hardest challenge about being a father is adapting to be the father my children need me to be. They are both unique from each other, but they are also unique from me. They have their own different interests, Love Languages, communication styles, etc.


I don’t always get this right, and on occasion I’ll yell out of frustration. At that point, I have to decide between the “satisfaction of being in charge,” or getting humble and repairing my relationship with my children.


They need to know that my love is unconditional, that I am am a flawed human like anyone else, and I want them to learn how to handle those conflicts in a healthy way. It’s a challenge to do that when I am learning myself. I have to swallow a lot of pride.


4) What advice would you give to other fathers?

Be present. Spend time with them doing what they like doing. That may mean hanging up the “machismo” to do a cheer routine, or sing along to Disney tunes, watching hours of Sponge Bob Square Pants, and even not watching Monday Night Football. That time spent with your kids will be worth it in the long run, because they’ll remember those moments you spent with them and repeat it with their own children.


Be real with your kids by being authentic and vulnerable with them. Your kids needs to live up to only being themselves, the best versions of themselves they want to be.


Having served in the U.S. Army and been a part of Operation Iraqi Freedom, I realized that at the end of my life none of my achievements, knowledge, or popularity would matter to me. Only one more moment with the people I love would matter most. I’ve seen the funerals of men whose estranged children were not present. We don’t have to have estranged children, but that will require we become humble as men to make that happen.


5) How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life?

My relationship priorities in life follow this order: God, marriage, my children, then everything else.


So, by spending time in prayer and meditation, I remind myself how wonderful my wife is. Treating her with respect, love, and priority models healthy relationships for my children while actually keeping my marriage healthy. My children do not worry about us divorcing even though we have had quite a few families fall apart from divorce.


I have passed up higher paying jobs because the commute would take more time away from my family. When it comes to scheduling my life, time with my family is more important than time with the guys, clubs, mixers, etc. Knowing our priorities has made it easy for me to say yes to what matters and no to what doesn’t.


6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?

In general, most fathers I have met wish to build their kids up and give them the best they can. Whether we go about it in a way that works, or not, that seems to be the core of what we intend. The fathers who seem to get it right do not try to create tough-guy clones of themselves. Instead, they simply show love to their kids, give encouragement where others would bring down an iron fist of discipline, and they even place their family priorities over their work priorities. Shocker, right?

7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?

The biggest thing I have learned, and am still learning, is how important it is to stay humble every day. My weakest moments as a father have been when I held onto my pride and asserted my position as an authority figure in the home.


No matter what I do, my family is watching. Even the things we think we do behind closed doors or in secret have ways of manifesting in our outward appearances and behaviors.


Some of the stories my children have enjoyed and learned from me the most have been the moments I shared my shortcomings with them. My children see me as their hero. They have more respect for me when I share how much of a real human I am.


8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?


My children are now both in middle school, and I am still amazed at how they love to cuddle with my wife and I. While they are growing up so quickly, it is in those moments that I am reminded they are also our babies and they love us.

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Disagreement, Fighting, and Conflict (Resolution) at #DadChat


Have you ever fought with your kids? Your partner? Okay, rhetorical questions of course! But, HOW do you fight and HOW do your kids fight and HOW do you all deal with conflict? THAT is the question and topic for #DadChat this Thursday, January 22 at 6:00 p.m. PT/9:00 p.m. ET. The topic was AGGRESSIVELY pitched to us by #DadChat regular Noelle Campbell who will be our co-host this week! She wouldn’t take NO for an answer. Interesting…I like strong women (I’m lying…no, I’m not).


Here are some suggested tweets to invite people to join us this week:

Who likes to Fight? Who likes Disagreement? Let’s have it out at #DadChat Thursday!

#DadChat takes ON Conflict Resolution tomorrow!

Tonight we’re going to fight, disagree, and learn conflict resolution at #DadChat

Happy Penguin Awareness Day From ‘Penguins of Madagascar’ #DadChat


Jan. 20 is Penguin Awareness Day! For more info: http://worldpenguinday.com/

They’re cute…they’re cuddly…they’re back!  From the creators of MADAGASCAR comes the hilarious new movie that proves global espionage is for the birds!  In DreamWorks’ PENGUINS OF MADAGASCAR, your favorite super-spies—Skipper, Kowalski, Rico and Private—join forces with the elite North Wind team to save the world.  It’s a side-splitting, globe-trotting adventure the whole family will love!  Introduce the Penguin family to your family on March 17 when Twentieth Century Fox Home Entertainment releases DreamWorks’ PENGUINS OF MADAGASCAR on Blu-ray™ and DVD.

And for a limited time, get 2 hopping Penguin toys only with the DreamWorks’ PENGUINS OF MADAGASCAR Easter DVD and Blu-ray™ pack on March 17 making it the perfect gift for Easter baskets.

PENGUINS OF MADAGASCAR is “a fun, smartly conceived film that will appeal to all movie-goers,” proclaims Bill Bregoli of CBS Radio. A hit with audiences and critics alike, the film received an outstanding audience reaction with a coveted “A-” CinemaScore® and certified fresh on RottenTomatoes.com.

Directed by Eric Darnell and Simon J. Smith, PENGUINS OF MADAGASCAR features the voice talents of John Malkovich (“Crossbones” Red 2), Benedict Cumberbatch (The Imitation Game), and Ken Jeong (The Hangover), joining Tom McGrath, Chris Miller and Christopher Knights, who are reprising their roles as the Penguins from the beloved Madagascar franchise.

The Blu-ray™ and DVD feature hours of bonus materials that uncover the covert operations of the PENGUINS OF MADAGASCAR including several exclusive featurettes, a deleted scene, a music video by Pitbull, a dance tutorial by tWitch, and more!

Getting a Suit In the Mail With OwnOnly ( @OwnonlySuit ) #dadchat


OWNONLY is an online retailer for custom tailored suits. They have grown to over 100 employees based in America, Nederlanden, Russian, Japan and China. They have recently introduced their lines of business and casual suits to the online market for our customers worldwide. At the same time, they are growing internally by hiring talent from all over the world to help develop their marketing and customer services.

They also have a team of designers who handle the pattern making and printing according to the individual measurements of each customer. The factory they have partnered with has many years experience in making suits which gives us them the confidence to provide only high quality suits and shirts.

As a new company, they wish to set themselves apart from others by how they run their company internally. Their team is made up of individuals coming from multiple backgrounds with their own unique experiences. Just as they believe only a suit tailored to you will fit properly, they believe the same is true in businesses. So they have adopted a more dynamic approach to their operations than traditional business by letting everyone at OWNONLY add their perspectives and talents to their development.




I have to say that reading about the company and their philosophy, I was hooked, and after looking at their suits and how you they have you order them, I was sold! As most of you know, I work as a College Administrator professionally, and that means that I am wearing suits daily too. That being said, I want to look my best and at my workplace that is something of an expectation too. Thus, I am always looking for new ways to find this style, and with my height, this is not always an easy thing to do. Big box stores do not typically have my size, so I am usually having to pay top dollar to get the suits, shirts, etc. that I need to match my stature.

In comes OwnOnly. I recently learned about them and from the very beginning I was impressed, as they work with all people, of all shapes and sizes and they have a wide array of things to choose from that will allow you to look your best whether you are working or you are just going out on the town. Best of all were the prices, as they were reasonable and lower than I have seen in many of the mens’ clothing stores that I usually have to frequent.

OwnOnly walks you through the complete process of measuring yourself to make sure that you are getting the exact fit that you need to give you a suit that is tailor made to your specifications. The website has a video that you actually can follow along to and all you need is a friend/spouse to help measure you accurately. The measuring takes less than five minutes and once complete, you send the measurements electronically and you are off.  I was impresed with customer service too, as I had a measurement that they were a bit concerned about and upon catching this they emailed, we re-measured and had to make an adjustment (Great catch!).



It takes a few weeks to get the suit, but when you do it comes in a unique bag (as you see above). You might think that the suit would get completely wrinkled, but I will tell you that mine did not. Actually the pictures of me below are the exact way the suit looked after I had it hung up on the nice wooden hanger that I received with the suit itself.



As you can see the suit is a great fit and I have received many compliments on the look of the suit too. For me, the process was so custom made and easy. I would definitely order another suit or other clothes from them in the future, as the experience that I had was an amazing one and the clothes were of top quality and fit perfectly. If you are looking for dress clothes that will feel great and fit you without additional tailoring needed, this is definitely the company to work with. As mentioned, I was sold at their philosophy, but now that I have been wearing this suit for a while, I am also sold at their workmanship too!



Dads in the Limelight ( #limelightdads ) – G Brandon Cunningham ( @ChrisWi25757871 ) #dadchat

Dads in the Limelight Series

Our 506th Dad in the Limelight is G Brandon Cunningham. I want to thank Brandon for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing him with all of you.
g-brandon-cunningham1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)
I am 44 years old and recently joined the Pastoral Staff of a growing church in Corpus Christi. They are almost done with a new building and wanted someone with experience to help it grow and reach more people. I have grown a campus for another church to over 500 people and had the experience in building systems and developing leaders.


2) Tell me about your family
I am remarried and have 5 children. I have 4 boys ages 20, 20, 17 & 17 and one girl that is 13. Obviously there are step brothers in there. We have two miniature schnauzers and live a very blessed life. I married my bride 8 years ago on the beach in Corpus Christi.


3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?
Being a step dad is very hard work. You are not replacing anyone since they are still in the picture so you have to find your own place in the family. You start by loving their mom and showing patience with their relationship with their dad. Then you have to balance the fact you are working hard to connect with these two boys when you have 3 children you brought into the marriage. It is situation you win at sometimes and lose at big time other times. The key is consistency. You have to apply the same rules and consequences to all the kids and never refer to them as yours and hers. Also never say anything negative about the dad even if it is true because they will resent you for it.



4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
Probably answered that in the previous question but since I am a pastor I will keep going. Best advice I received and give is to love their mother. You have to show love to their mother even if it is your ex and you are “justified” in your words or anger. You also have to show love and grace to their father in the step parent area. Most important is whether you are divorced, remarried or still married, love their mom more than them. If you show them that your wife means more than them they will go find a wife like that and not over value their kids.


5) How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life?
We have all heard about Pastor’s kids and believe me that can be very true. Two of mine went off the rails and got involved in drugs because I was too focused on the church and growing my career. I had to take 2 years off from full time ministry to refocus on the family. In order to do that I had to ask them what they wanted from me. I had to ask what I did wrong and how to fix it. I asked my kids and my wife but I also asked mentors that were further along than me. I surrounded myself with men I could trust and would guide me. I also restarted something I used to do which we call a day alone. Because we had so many kids a day all to themselves with us was huge.


6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?
I learned most of us get it wrong. We try to get them to like us when we should be trying to get them to like themselves. Kids have friends but they need a dad that guides them and cares enough to let them fail sometimes. I learned most kids just want a dad to teach them not do it for them.



7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?
I think going to church and prayer is a good thing but they have to see you act it out in your everyday life. They need to see you extend grace to those that don’t deserve it and not be something different on Monday than you claim to be on Sunday. Kids want dad to be real and not a hypocrite. Raising teenagers and young adults is harder than babies but also very rewarding. I wouldn’t trade my worst day because it is still a thrill to see them succeed.


8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?
My 17 year old son telling me he wanted to pay for his own gas because that is what a man does in life. He pays his own way. Now I have had a lot and we do still pay for his gas because that is something we do so they focus on grades. It was just a big moment to see your son claiming his manhood and taking responsibility for his life.
If you have any questions for Brandon, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!

Also, do you know a Dad in the Limelight? If so, please email me their contact information so that they too can be a part of this series!

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